Beyond Money in Estate Planning – A Holiday Perspective
The holidays are a time for reflection, connection, and creating memories with loved ones. They’re also an opportunity to have meaningful conversations about the future beyond financial matters to focus on values, legacies, and how we want to care for our families. Estate planning, much like the holidays, isn’t just about money. It’s about passing on what truly matters: your wisdom, traditions, and vision for your family’s future.
Here are some frequently asked questions that can spark thoughtful discussions during family gatherings this holiday season.
1. Isn’t estate planning only about taxes?
This is one of the most common misconceptions about estate planning. While taxes can play a role, a comprehensive estate plan encompasses much more than that.
A comprehensive estate plan covers a lot of important ground: emergency planning, incapacity and end-of-life planning, probate avoidance, fair and efficient distribution of assets, and creditor protection, to name a few. Each of these various goals of estate planning have one overarching purpose—to minimize avoidable strife by promoting ease, harmony and healing in the face of tragedy and death. Estate planning is about protecting yourself and your loved ones—sometimes from a well-meaning but challenged healthcare system, sometimes from a toxic family member, sometimes from the IRS or the probate court, and more. A comprehensive plan is a gift to your loved ones, where you take care of the details so that they can focus on what really matters when the going gets tough—family relationships, values and love.
2. I thought trusts only dealt with property. How can trust be used to pass along my values?
Trusts are versatile and can be tailored to reflect your values and goals. While they are often associated with managing and distributing property, they can also influence and inspire future generations.
For example:
Educational Trusts: Encourage a commitment to learning by funding tuition or educational endeavors.
Incentive Trusts: These trusts promote responsible behavior, such as matching funds for a down payment on a house or rewarding volunteerism.
Charitable Trusts: Support causes close to your heart, inspiring your family to carry on your philanthropic mission.
Consider a family vacation fund: If you treasure the time spent with loved ones at a holiday destination, you can establish a trust to ensure those traditions continue. By tying your resources to cherished family experiences or values, your estate plan becomes about more than finances—it becomes a guide for future generations to live by.
3. What should I tell my children about my estate planning?
Estate plans should not be a secret. Family gatherings during the holidays can be the perfect time to start open and honest conversations about your estate plan. These discussions don’t have to be somber or formal. Instead, they can be framed as part of the family story, reflecting your hopes and wishes for the future.
Here are some ideas for sharing your plan with your family:
Explain the reasons behind your decisions: Transparency can foster understanding and prevent future conflict, whether it’s how assets will be divided, why you’ve chosen certain fiduciaries, or your preferences for health care.
Highlight your values: Use your estate plan to showcase what’s most important to you—education, philanthropy, or family traditions—and explain how you’ve built that into your plan.
Introduce key documents: Share how tools like health care directives or powers of attorney ensure your wishes are honored. This not only reduces stress during challenging times but also strengthens family trust.
Some families make these discussions a tradition, weaving them into holiday storytelling or scrapbooking sessions. The goal is to create an open dialogue where everyone feels included and prepared.
How to Approach Estate Planning Conversations During the Holidays
If you’re considering using your holiday gatherings to discuss estate planning, keep these tips in mind:
Be intentional: Plan a quiet moment, perhaps after dinner or during a cozy family night, to discuss the topic.
Make it personal: Share anecdotes or memories that tie your plan to the family’s history. For example, talk about the origin of a family heirloom or your motivations for charitable giving.
Invite questions: Encourage your family to ask questions or share their thoughts. Estate planning is as much about listening as it is about explaining.
Estate Planning as a Gift to Your Family
The holidays remind us of the importance of family, love, and continuity. Creating or updating your estate plan gives your family a priceless gift: clarity, security, and a legacy that extends far beyond material wealth.
As you gather with your loved ones this season, consider using the opportunity to connect on a deeper level. Share your wishes, listen to theirs, and craft a plan that reflects the heart of your family. After all, estate planning isn’t just about what you leave behind—it’s about the life you live and the love you share along the way.
Whether capturing the joy of family traditions, preserving treasured heirlooms, or ensuring your wishes are respected, estate planning is a meaningful process beyond financial considerations. The holidays provide the perfect backdrop to start—or deepen—this conversation with your family. By weaving your values and legacy into your estate plan, you create a lasting gift that your loved ones will cherish for generations.
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